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Forgiveness-Be a butterfly!

I recently read a blog post that was related to another blog post about forgiveness which inspired me to write this blog post. Woo-what a sentence right?




The question is should you forgive and why should you? Is it really for you or for the other person who did the damage to you in the first place and what are you forgiving? Is it trauma that is truly unforgivable? ie; abuse-sexual, physical and or verbal? Or did you just really have a bad childhood and you still are holding on to that in the back of your young unforgiving mind?


These are all interesting thoughts of to forgive or not to forgive. I am not a psychologist or have any type of degree to even form an opinion that would qualify but what I have read on this topic and have learned from many years with therapist ( yes, I have gone to therapy) is this you can forgive others but not for their benefit but for your own and that is for your own sake as to move on. Now here is the question really. Do you really want to move on? Do you really want to forgive or is this something that you have held on to for so long that it is like a part of you like a second skin and without you wouldn’t feel right? I have met these types of people. They fall into the category of a victim. Not a survivor. ¬†When you have this mentality, you can not let go. You will eventually repeat the same patterns, the same old, same old unless you rid yourself of the victim mentality and love yourself enough to become a survivor and not have this be part of your story anymore.

Now I am not saying that this person or people were not wrong but stop reliving the bad and go for the good. If you keep rehashing this they have won and you my dear friends have lost. You will fall into the trap and that is not where any one should be. Love yourself enough to pull yourself out and fly above all of it.


In summary learn to fly just like a butterfly. Hatch from the¬†cocoon you have spun yourself into and spread those beautiful wings and let the world see your beauty. You deserve so much more. Tell another story… Hell rewrite it!